Get Ready To Marry – Sam Adeyemi

–  Sam Adeyemi Marriage is cooperating with God to fulfil His divine agenda for our planet, His purpose for marriage are higher than the obvious benefits we derive from it (Malachi 2:15). God’s plans are trans-generational and we should position ourselves to influence generations or else, He may not reveal His plans to us (Genesis 18:17-19), We need to approach the issue of marriage deliberately and prayerfully. It is never too early to pray for your marriage; even if you are not ready yet. Neither is it too early to pray for your children’s marriages in the future..

Positively or negatively, everything in life, especially your family, programmes you for marriage. Our experiences in life should help us mature. Ask yourself, “Have my experiences in life made me become better or bitter?” Marriage is for mature people; it is not for boys and girls. You need to mature spiritually, emotionally, psychologically, physically, professionally, socially and mentally (Luke 2:52). In particular, you need to grow spiritually and build your life on strong spiritual values. This means your relationship with God needs to constantly grow. You should develop the ability to hear from God and let Him shape your values and perspectives to life. We are subject to deception and confusion when God is absent from our thinking. Involve Him in your decision making; He knows the future. When it comes to making choice and listing the qualities you want in a spouse, the key factors should be spiritual compatibility and your values as these will influence who you attract. Realise that you cannot change another person; so if that is your objective for getting married, you have failed before you even started. Erroneously, most people focus on the qualities the OTHER party should have when the emphasis should be on the qualities YOU need to have. When God brought Eve to Adam, he was “wowed”! Would someone be “wowed” when God says you are the person he or she should marry?

What are the qualities you are bringing into the relationship? Would you be an asset or a liability- spiritually, emotionally, physically and financially? Has God been able to mould you or is it life that moulded you? Regardless of what you may have gone through, giving God an opportunity to work in your life should make you better (1Corinthians 13:11). Without the Holy Spirit to help you, you will run dry of the sweet qualities marriage requires of you (Romans 5:5). If you are not serious with your spiritual life and are not committed in church, you will attract people whose values are compatible with yours. When you feel you are prepared to marry, make yourself visible (
Proverbs 18:22). Join a group and serve actively. Many times, you will find your future spouse in the place of service. You can also meet people at work, in your neighbourhood or through family and friends. Do not marry out of desperation! Be extremely cautious when it comes to matchmaking and online dating. Pray and do your research about the person; ask questions about the person’s background, values, likes and dislikes, etc. Also, mention your feelings to a pastor or leader in the church so that they can pray along with you…

~ Daystar’s Bulletin
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